Our doggy's vary in age from 1 to 5 years old, and I have made a conscious effort to train our dogs to sit/wait in doorways and upon entering the house, or a room. I also have them wait/sit politely, until I'm done fumbling around for my keys, purse, groceries etc., before I allow them to come close to my legs. It's for my safety as much as theirs. This exercise is very important for the reason, I just mentioned.
Dogs appreciate structure no different than children; regardless of what we are told.
Actually, dogs need someone to take control in a positive manner in order to help them feel safe. Training them for success helps us (humans) and them to feel good about our relationship. Positive boundaries should not be interpreted as abuse. Teaching a dog manners can actually keep them and us safe too. On the other hand not teaching a dog manners is neglect.
We all have read stories, upon stories of unfortunate events where an unsuspecting child was mauled due to an arrogant owner, allowing a dog to rule his home and interpreting this as "training."
I love a polite, obedient dog(s) and it makes for a long lasting relationship filled with love and respect for one another.
Happy Tails 🐾